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There is no greater embarrassment than getting caught while doing the nasty. One minute you’re French kissing your man and things are getting hot and heavy, and the next, you are staring down at the flushed face of your mother. Oof, the embarrassment is real. Things sometimes tend to go south when we let out libido get the better of us. Sometimes we are too lax in locking doors before getting down to do the deed, and sometimes it is fate....

And for good reason. Monogamy, after all, has been at the center of our ideas surrounding love and companionship, across societies. But with this article, and with an expert in our arsenal, our plan is to make it easier for you to sail through the tumultuous waters of polyamory. Relationship and intimacy coach Shivanya Yogmayaa (internationally certified in the therapeutic modalities of EFT, NLP, CBT, REBT, etc), who specializes in different forms of couples counseling, talked to us on all things polyamorous so that we could bring to you a nuanced take on the topic and help you understand the simplicity that is the basis of this seemingly complex concept....

Deepak Kashyap says: Normal is one word, which when expressed as a desire, can become a single most [restict]important reason to feel inadequate and hence face a bit of low self-esteem, stress and confusion. You haven’t mentioned how long you had been with her, I’d imagine that it was long enough and you invested enough, for it to have the profound effect that it did, on you. So right off the bat, I would say it is normal for you to lament the loss of something that was so dear to you....

My husband expected me to do all household chores single-handedly. We could never get any domestic help as nobody would work in our house for long because of his bad temper. My day would start at 4.30 am: Clean the house, lay everything ready for him neatly on the bed including his socks, shoes, wallet, clothes, make breakfast and lunch for the three of us (those days his younger brother lived with us) and then rush to work by 8....

A saying that rings true for the story of Rahul and Natasha set in the bustling city of dreams – Mumbai, where perhaps more hopes are extinguished than fulfilled. This is a story of infidelity in a marriage, hurt, self-loathing and compromise. In the end, that is precisely what makes relationships work – compromises. Rahul is a playwright – a creative, behind-the-scenes guy – while Natasha a chartered accountant working with one of the largest accounting firms in the world....

On the surface, it may seem like narcissists are universally happy. After all, they appear entirely confident and self-assured. They seem to have no remorse when it comes to manipulating others or twisting reality. And their self-esteem is to the moon…or is it? But are narcissists happy? Do they love themselves and the life they live? Or is it all an obnoxious facade? As it turns out, the relationship between narcissism and happiness is incredibly complex....

Singing Pyar Hua Ekrar Huya under the umbrella is your idea of romance. You can sit by the window all day and listen to the pitter-patter and look at the lashing rain. Sounds relatable? You’re displaying the signs you are a pluviophile – a person who loves rain. Who Is A Pluviophile? The definition of pluviophile is a ‘lover of rain’. That means somebody who finds joy and peace during rains....

An overwhelming need to avoid confrontation often makes people tolerate infidelity, abuse, and a lack of trust and contentment. If you are trying to figure out how to get out of an unhealthy relationship, the first step is to identify the issues you are facing. Leaving a bad relationship is not easy, we agree. It’s especially hard if you love your partner. However, it’s not impossible either. To be able to do that, you have to first identify the warning signs and acknowledge them for what they are....

An affair withdrawal in many cases may be like a drug withdrawal. You’ll feel uneasy, anxious and may often be tempted to get in touch with your lover and start the affair yet again. All the effort that you would have put will go in vain if you restart and you are certainly inviting more trouble in your life in the long run. Related reading: I’m depressed and unable to move on after my breakup...

Hello Ma’am, I’m an eighteen-year-old woman and I’ve been masturbating for a year. The situation is that now I feel restless if I don’t do it for a day. Also, my clitoris has become quite large. What is this happening to me? Please help. Counsellor Sharmila Majumdar says: Dear Young lady, To begin with, masturbation is an absolutely normal and healthy exercise. It also eliminates the risk and fear of sexually transmitted infections....

Love is a complicated multiplexed emotion that can be incredibly hard to decipher at times. Now that we think about it, how many times have we been caught up in conditional love in a relationship or conditional love in a marriage? Are we unconsciously placing prerequisites on our partners that we absolutely cannot do without, maybe to satisfy a deep need inside us? What Does Conditional Love Mean? “Conditional love is not love” is said by a lot of people, but how true is this statement?...

As interesting as these discussions are, the practice of these concepts – whether monogamy or non-monogamy – is not fool-proof, and requires dedication and a lot of learning. Many people, who are in monogamous relationships, end up confessing cheating on their partners. Strangely, people in non-monogamous relationships do that too. According to an article, less than 5% of the 4,000 mammal species are monogamous. Having said that, if you’ve entered an arrangement where cheating is forbidden, you can’t blur ethical boundaries....

Well, it is surely an exciting proposition. However, like every other relationship, this too comes with its share of problems and pitfalls. That’s why fully understanding the pros and cons of dating an older man is crucial to ensure you’re making the right decision. Once you’re sure that you’re in it for all the right reasons and decide to take the leap, you’ll have to learn to navigate the relationship maze from a fresh perspective....

Practicing a 30 day no contact rule (or more) gives a person the window to deal with this sudden, major life change, spend time in peace understanding what they want and then be decide how to go about things in the future. As difficult as it may be to hit ‘Block’ on their Instagram profile or delete their number from your phone, you will thank us later when you realize the amazing benefits of practicing the no contact rule after a recent breakup....

(Names changed to protect identities) How I met my best friend It was the early ‘90s in Nainital. I’d just stepped into teenage and submerged deeper into my recluse life, which was only about books. I had very few friends from school, the overweight geek who didn’t love the outdoors and whose routine was six days at school and if an evening/weekend was free, stroll up to the library on The Mall alone and look for more books to read....

Let me tell you my story. I always felt that marriage was the final destination. That you arrive and that’s it. Twenty-two years of fairly peaceful married life is not a joke. It takes a lot of effort from both spouses, and Rick and I have done fairly well. We have known and loved each other since our college days. We understand each other and are compatible too. That’s why we got married in 1995....

There is also a common belief among the parents in our society. They believe that when they marry off their daughters, they bring home the most esteemed guest of the house. They believe that it is the duty of that ‘esteemed guest’ to fulfil all the wishes and dreams of their daughter and keep her happy. Like all the fairy-tale stories, their princess with her prince should live happily forever together....

Yet, no one would think of telling a socially gregarious person how to be a bit more reserved. The science behind shyness has revealed that this personality type isn’t entirely down to genetics. In fact, only 30% of shyness is inherited. Researchers have found that environmental factors also play a role. Because shyness is partly inherited and partly developed, it can actually be changed. Is Shyness a Trait That Needs to Be Alleviated?...

This is, often, followed by another thought: what is it that women want in a man? This has been touted as an ethereal mystery since time immemorial. However, the mindset that figuring out what women want from their partners and relationships is next to impossible is just another stereotype that has been fed to us so often that we’ve accepted it as gospel truth. Knowing what women want in a partner and becoming the man that every woman wants isn’t half the battle it’s made out to be....

Jealousy and anger have the potential to wreak havoc when it manifests in romantic relationships unless you can find a way to channel them constructively. In this article, we’re going to look at how to channel anger and jealousy so that you don’t hurt those around you, those you love, and those who love you. 5 Reasons For Anger And Jealousy In Relationships It is not uncommon for romantic partners to grapple with feelings of jealousy and anger....