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So can you date your boss? Under what circumstances? If you’re one of those people who has fallen for someone in a senior position and you want to start dating your boss, continue reading Rita and Ron’s story. How He Started Dating His Female Boss Rita knew men fell for her. Tall, sexy and exceedingly well-spoken, she had risen to become the young editor of a lifestyle magazine. Some of her older junior colleagues wondered how she had become so successful at 28 years of age....

So, what is a gaslighter personality? Are there any tell-tale characteristics of a gaslighter that you can watch out for to safeguard yourself from this form of psychological abuse? Is there a gaslighter personality disorder or is this tendency triggered by something entirely different? Is this form of manipulation always shrewdly calculative or can a person resort to unintentional gaslighting? In this article, psychotherapist Dr. Aman Bhonsle (Ph.D., PGDTA), who specializes in relationship counseling and Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, writes about the gaslighter personality to unravel its myriad layers....

Cheating is soul-shattering, irrespective of gender and sexual preference. According to Divorce Magazine, 60-75% of couples who experience infidelity remained together. But there’s a catch here. Not all those couples chose to stay together out of love. For some, the reasons varied from fear of being alone to not having anywhere else to go, financial issues, fear of traumatizing their children, and so on. It’s plain to see how complicated a couple’s dynamics can become in the aftermath of cheating....

If you are currently in a committed relationship with a narcissist, you may think your life is an enduring hell- or at least purgatory. You might wonder if you stick it out, will he get better with age, will he mellow out? Unfortunately, there is not a longitudinal research study with a definitive answer. Do Narcissists get worse with age? One study in the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry (F.Stinson et al, 2008) suggested that pathological narcissists might mellow out, as the characteristics of NPD were more prevalent among younger adults compared to older ones....

We reached out to psychologist Jayant Sundaresan, who says, “One of the central signs of commitment issues is feeling anxious. If a person gets restless when they get a feeling that things are moving deeper in a relationship, they might take a step back. They will say that they aren’t interested in settling down or that they don’t care for commitment. “In certain contexts, this quality might be alluring for other people....

It’s all about how you fight. Screaming, name-calling, giving ultimatums about ending the marriage, and hurling abuses at each other are all classic examples of toxicity which one should run away from. You could be fighting over money in a marriage or it could be something silly and unimportant, but there are many rules of fighting in a marriage which will prevent you from permanently denting the foundations of your relationship....

For some of us, it’s difficult to imagine controlling our nerves through the entire date without knocking back a few drinks (they call it liquid courage for a reason). But for some, especially the teetotallers, dates without drinking might just become the new norm. Hence, it begs the question. What’s better: downing a few glasses of wine or making sure you keep your back straight and your words un-slurred? Let’s take a look at the polls and what people think....

“What do you do against someone who blames you for everything? Because it’s almost like I can’t do anything right. No matter how hard I try, it’s never good enough. I just get told how stupid I am or how I should have done it differently. I feel so exhausted and resentful.” Does this mental script sound familiar in your relationship? Are you constantly being told that you’re the problem, even if you’re just doing your best?...

A controlling person can be caring, charming, and loving. So when you start dating them, you can’t have a clue that it would turn into a controlling manipulative relationship. It takes time to come to terms with the fact that you have made a bad decision and you need to leave. But getting rid of a controlling relationship is not easy. A manipulative, controlling person would use every trick in their kitty to make you stay....

Dealing with heartbreak is as such not easy. You have to deal with feelings of rejection, the inability to make the relationship work and also you keep grappling with memories constantly. In the midst of that, putting in the extra effort to forget the crush you see every day can make moving on that much harder. Willy and Molly (name changed) were working in the same office and they fell for each other....

People often assume that narcissists never apologize for their wrongdoings. However, this myth isn’t true. In fact, some narcissists are more than happy to tell you they’re sorry. The difference, however, is that their apologies lack sincerity and merit. That’s because their intentions aren’t rooted in expressing empathy or repairing a relationship issue. Instead, they are focused on coping with their own emotions and satisfying their intrinsic needs. The apology is about their self-preservation, and it has nothing to do with supporting you or honoring your needs....

We’ve all been taught to not engage in discourse when tempers are soaring. However, this time-out to cool down should not be confused with the tendency to freeze the other person out by giving them a cold shoulder. The latter falls in the category of silent treatment – an abusive tendency that does more harm than good. If you’ve been at its receiving end, you’d have found yourself desperate for an answer to how to respond to the silent treatment....

(Names changed to protect identities) Papa was extremely anxious about letting me go to another city. I’d never been away from him except vacations at Nani’s place with Ma. I least expected him to allow me to go to Mumbai for an MBA. But I guess he’d noticed that I could take care of myself. Besides, he heard about Mehul’s admission in the same college, too. Subhash Kaka is Papa’s elder cousin, his paternal Uncle’s son....

Thinking if their behavior is normal, or just a little out of control. According to the vocabulary, obsession is having an extreme interest in something. In this case, being obsessed is when he has lost control of his feelings and his interest has become compulsive. You’ve noticed some of his behavior and you can’t tell if it’s just an obsession or if he’s in love with you. Well, those two can go together or alone....

Gay Couple Shirts And T-Shirts Whether you’ve just started dating or are happily married to each other, these gay couple matching outfits would be perfect for adding some color to your relationship. You can select the kind of product that suits both your preferences and purchase accordingly. These are some of the coolest designs out there for gay couple shirts and are certain to please both you and your partner....

When a woman continually feels ‘my husband resents my success’, the dynamics of even the happiest, most secure couple relationships can change for the worse quickly. Even though jealousy is a common human emotion, it is known to wreak havoc on the human mind and relationship. We all experience it at some point in our life, perhaps a lot more that we like to admit. When your best friend scores more than you… when your sibling comes home with a shining trophy… when a cousin lands that coveted fellowship overseas....

Why complain when you’re being looked after? I would advise my mother that she is being taken care of and she should be happy. But she would not listen. With her constant complaints that she is not taken care of, wasting money, etc., she created a rift between my brother and sister-in-law. When I look back, as a child I remember that my mother herself never took up her family responsibilities seriously....

Platonic connections run deeper and are stronger than a romantic relationship or any other friendship or familial relationship in your life because you feel a sense of instant recognition and comfort with them in the first meeting itself. They understand you, support you through thick and thin, accept you for who you are, and always have your back. What are the signs of platonic love? Have you found your platonic soulmate?...

What does power struggle mean for the future of a relationship? Is every relationship a power struggle? Is it necessarily an ominous sign? Can power struggle in a relationship be a positive thing? Does it always and unequivocally mean one partner clipping the wings of another? When we closely examine the balance of power in any romantic partnership, many questions of this nature spring up. To be able to address them and comprehend the role of this relationship dynamic, we decode the intricacies of power struggle in consultation with advocate Siddhartha Mishra (BA, LLB), a lawyer practicing at the Supreme Court of India....

There tend to be two camps of people when it comes to Public Displays of Affection (PDA) and relationships. There are those who are all for it and those who think it’s seriously inappropriate. And there aren’t many who fall into a middle camp. To understand why this subject is so divisive, we need to talk about what a PDA is and some general etiquette for use. Public Displays of Affection (PDA) Meaning Public Displays of Affection, or PDAs, occur when a couple gets intimate in public....