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Today I sat again by the huge French window in the attic of our ancestral palatial house located on the Jakhu hill in Shimla. The city lights spread out below me like a dark blanket studded with stars. Today I was again thinking about my younger brother – Vikram, the scion of our erstwhile aristocratic family and a long political lineage. I was a couple of years older and we were both together at the famous boarding school in the Shivalik hills, where even back in the ‘90s homosexual couples were an open secret....

It’s hard to believe that only a couple of decades ago, texting was a luxury that only a few people could use. But texting has made things more convenient. It’s easy to send your friends or family a brief message about something that’s not worth calling over. In the 2020s, texting has become the primary mode of communicating with everybody, including girls. “How often should you text a girl to keep her interested” is a decision most guys ponder at some point....

Some of us hate to cancel, no matter what the circumstances. Others feel an immense amount of relief after canceling plans, even if they were looking forward to them. Canceling plans is difficult for many of us because we feel like we are disappointing our loved ones. And some of us even worry that the other party doesn’t believe our excuse. But remember that things happen, people get sick or unexpected work rears its ugly head....

Even if this passes with time, each experience and breakup is different from one another. Experiencing panic attacks and feeling lonely after the breakup is quite normal. The person that used to be the main focus of your life is not there. The void that they live in will haunt you for a while. Even if you’re the dumper or the dumpee the marks that a breakup will leave will induce loneliness and anxiety....

You too might have wondered: Why do I feel I am not in love anymore?Is it normal to lose feelings for your partner?Can lost feelings come back?How do I save my failing relationship? This study that explored the “lived experience of falling out of romantic love” says that the “gradual decline of the relationship resulted initially from a collection of subtle, almost imperceptible changes in the relationship. As these factors grew, they eventually became large-scale destructive experiences that ultimately depleted romantic love....

The comfortable life you grew so accustomed to now ceases to exist, and coming to terms with the harsh reality is the last thing you want to do. Getting over a long-term relationship is no easy feat, which is why even the best of us require help. Figuring out what to do after ending a long-term relationship is no walk in the park, especially if you’re trying to tackle this daunting question alone....

A few days ago, a friend of mine sent a video in a WhatsApp group I’m part of. He wrote: “Amazing, watch it, you’ll love it.” It was a 12-minutes Ted Talk where Robert Waldinger, Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, talked about the longest study on happiness. In particular, Waldinger explained that the happiest people, tend to be the ones who have good relationships. Also, he explained that what determines the quality of our lives is not the quantity of our relationships but their quality....

While you have cared too much for him all this while, the utmost way to make him really want you is to stop expressing how much you care. You might wonder the worst about what happens when you back off from a guy, but sometimes, it’s for your own good. The 15-Step Guide On How To Pull Away To Make Him Want You You want your man to want you, rather, you want him to ‘want’ to love you unconditionally....

There are so many ways to rekindle romance in a relationship and feel all giddy and rosy again. Relationships are not simple. It sometimes takes a little extra work and energy to keep them going. However, it is always worth it. It is possible that due to busy schedules, general distance, or a lack of motivation, you might not have been feeling the love for a while. But do not worry, this is completely natural and happens to every couple at some point or the other....

A man is expected to be healthy; ours is a society where morals like ‘a real man don’t feel pain’ exist. Being brave is considered a quality imparted with gender. But all that is far from reality. Man is emotional, burdened, and often this expectation prevents him from expressing himself on delicate matters. The toughness stops men from addressing issues that matter, and they just cringe inside at the agony of not being able to vent....

When we emerge from this lockdown, the world won’t be the same again…is the common refrain used to predict the impact of the Coronavirus pandemic on our lives. Only time will tell whether the pundits are accurate in their prediction, but I can say this with absolute certainty – this lockdown has changed my world beyond recognition, forever. As a 41-year-old married woman with children, I had never imagined guilt about intimacy and sex would feature on my list of things to worry about....

For those of you who are catching up with this series here, I suggest reading the first and the second part before you read this. My wife Shweta and I are a working couple. We embarked on a new adventure with Sharad and his wife Swati, a couple with whom we shared terrific chemistry. We went on a weekend vacation to Ooty with them where we swapped partners for the night....

Know How Much He Loves You Through His Body Language Let’s see how much your guy is into you. A man in love with you will always show it through his body language. You just have to know how to read that body language. We tell you ways to do that. 1. He locks his eyes with your face, not only eyes You might think that a guy who is totally charmed by you will find it hard to peel his eyes away....

On the other extreme, emotional eating or binge-eating is something that people find themselves indulging in to deal with their issues. They might have had a perfectly decent day with a few healthy and nutritious meals. But the moment they get home and are graced with stressors like an irascible spouse or a major relationship argument, they find themselves inching towards the kitchen and eating anything that they can get their hands on....

Things are different in India compared to the West, where the autonomy to choose your partner was attained earlier. The celebrated American author-poet Maya Angelou said, “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” Still, the opposite was true for love marriages in India. Whether a love marriage is good or not, individually, can be a very subjective question in any country....

When it comes to breaking up, the men vs women differences present a stark contrast. The whole journey sees a lot of differences in the way they respond, cope and react to this mountain of suffering. While a man’s maturity and objectivity take a while to kick in, women almost jump on the coping wagon a little too soon. Either way has its pros and cons. Men vs Women – Reaction To Breakups The men vs women reaction to breakups is actually a long list....

Good afternoon ma’am, I am a graduate and preparing for civil service. Now I am in a relationship with a person who is 4 years older than me and is working. Everything is fine with us, but the problem is that every time his past comes between us. He had a relationship with a girl before and I know about it. However, I asked her name, he refused to tell me and till now he has her number saved in his phone....

Click here to read: I dated women for years before coming out as gay. That evening as we got ready for dinner, he looked different. He looked exactly as he looked for the wedding days. His lips were pink in colour and eyes looked defined by eyeliner. I didn’t ask him anything, as my inside was shattered. But I realised for the first time my husband wears makeup. “ Click here to read: My husband gossips a lot and I find it difficult to accept this....

Sadly, all of that went in vain. Breakup after breakup, I realized it was only getting harder to meet someone who was my type and agreed with me on the things that I cared about. I was feeling a little disheartened because I was also starting to get puzzled about what I looked for in a man. Can Opposites Attract? Little did I know what was coming when I was forcibly taken by my mom to visit a numerologist....

Maybe there were too many unnecessary fights. Or maybe you didn’t give them the respect that they deserved. Maybe you were so caught up in your issues that you became blind to their needs. All these maybes start messing with your brain and all you want to do is pour them out in the form of a long apology letter starting with ‘Dear ex’. So, if you’re wondering, “Is it too late to apologize to an ex?...