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No wonder infidelity sucks so much more now. For we have no support system to help us safeguard the continuity of the relationship from fleeting or deeper infidelities vis-à-vis the larger more substantial future we have chalked out for ourselves with our spouse. The one today can, in the heat of the indiscretion, shortsightedly decide to walk away from the marriage and larger responsibilities or alternatively the one betrayed can, in a fit of rage, decide to end the unit without really thinking through of< how relevant the indiscretion really is, even for the betrayer....

Narcissistic rage is one of the classic behaviors of the narcissist. Most narcissistic victims have experienced serious outbursts of narcissistic rage which can include violent physical attacks, hysteria, screaming and verbal or emotional abuse. Narcissistic rage covers a wide range of behaviors from aloofness or mild irritability to serious, physically violent attacks. Narcissist often makes unrealistic demands on those closest to them. These demands are often challenged by their partner, family member, or colleague....

Also, the breakup grieving process is unique to each individual – what works for you may or may not work for a friend. In fact, what works for one friend may not work for another. Supposing you have to help a long-distance friend through a breakup. The comfort of your physical presence isn’t available to them so then the question becomes how to help a friend through a breakup over text or video calls....

Like most men, you might have asked your guy friends “What makes a girl fall in love with a guy?” Except they are equally clueless. Unless they are Bryan Adams who really knows his stuff as is quite evident by his song ‘Have you ever really loved a woman.’ You can’t get a girl just by gifting a couple of gifts or showing up well dressed with a few careless pick-up lines....

Why Do People Ask What’s Up? The phrase “what’s up” means “what is happening at the moment.” Yet, you can interpret this phrase differently depending on the person. What’s up can mean how your day was or how’s your health. Or, it’s another way to say or respond to hello. According to lemongrad.com, “Although ‘what’s up’ is used interchangeably with ‘how are you,’ it’s not the same. When people say ‘what’s up,’ they mean what’s going on....

You must have experienced the adage, “Nice guys finish last,” manifest in real life. Being kind has no negative consequences but you must know when to quit. If you are aware that you are hurting yourself or your feelings to placate others, stop right now. It is simply not worth it. What Makes You A Nice Guy? Several factors put the burden or a tag of being a nice guy on your shoulders....

In a study titled ‘Courtship in the Digital Age’ which had a sample of 3,000 married people in the U.S., researchers found that couples who dated for one to two years (compared to those who dated less than a year) were 20% less likely to get a divorce; and couples who dated for three years or longer were 39% less likely to part. That’s because the human brain is soft-wired to attach to a partner slowly as the primary circuit for deep attachment can take months, sometimes even years, to activate....

Do you want to take your flirting to the next level? Lightly teasing a woman can be one of the best ways to connect with your crush and deepen your relationship. Of course, if you want it to be effective, you need to know what to do (and what to avoid). Here’s everything you need to know about how to tease a woman. Why Should You Tease Girls? Believe it or not, teasing isn’t just a flirting strategy....

You like a guy, and you want to know if he likes you. You’re usually self-assured, but you can’t seem to gather the courage to tell him you like him. Join the club, sister. How do you tell a guy you like him without scaring him off or fooling yourself? Is it possible to check if he likes you without telling him? How are you sure that you want him enough to take the risk of embarrassment?...

A woman getting mixed signals from a man is a typical situation in the romantic world. Men… slightly confusing, yet slightly confused themselves make this situation slightly more complicated. Considering this, the “How to tell if he likes you?” question is in the heads of a lot of women, you’re not alone. However, whether he knows it or not, he’ll be giving those subtle signs he likes you anyway. The quiz will make it easier to get a glimpse of his feelings for you and get you to know if he likes you or not....

This void brings us to a large question – is it the end of the road if you have been feeling less loved in a relationship? The answer lies in thoughtful scrutiny of your relationship. Do you feel like you have grown apart emotionally? Is the damage irrevocable? Or, are you still on decent terms and can tell your partner “I don’t feel loved?” This scathing phase is never easy to express....

I knew I would not be with her every waking moment on our wedding night itself. For that idea was an impossible one. I believed in giving my wife space and independence she deserved. But I never realised, two years into marriage I would lose her to another man, and that too my childhood friend. For me, commitment and sexual exclusivity were supreme after marriage. I was a workaholic, and either never got the chance or never had the wish to indulge in any advances I ever faced from any of my female colleagues....

(As told to Anney Sam) I never took anything lying down I used to warn my bosses that if they were to reprimand me they had to do so in a closed room. I even told them that if they humiliated me in front of my colleagues, or raised their voice, I would most probably retaliate. I guess I forgot to apprise my husband of the same. I had only seen my parents’ marriage and it was one of equanimity, lots of affection and camaraderie....

Moving on from a relationship that lasted for more than four years, from a person in whom you saw the promise of ‘forever’, seeing her walking out of the relationship without giving a closure, is traumatic to say the least. Trying to put the array of emotions I felt into words is a futile exercise. It hurt a lot initially, but as the saying goes, time heals. At the risk of sounding filmy, I’d say the moments I spent with her, happy and dark, often flashed in my mind....

There are many new revelations which even after travelling around the sun for more than 20 years the brides are unaware of. The marriage introduces them to those secret sides of their personality and hidden wishes. Related reading: Why newly wed couples in Bengal cannot spend the first night together Rules on what to wear and how to wear it After my marriage, I came to know that the tummy revealing sari is more decent than full body covering salwar-kurta....

My wife has a bad temper. Often our disagreements turn to angry fights where she raises her hand to me. Obviously, I don’t hit her back when she slaps me or kicks me, but this is really no way to behave. In anger, she will also say terrible things like, ‘why did I marry you’, ‘you are not even good in bed’, and so on… Initially, it was OK, she didn’t hit that much, and nor were her words so hurtful....

What may be a total no-no for you may seem like a trivial concern to others because in their culture or religion it’s okay. But these trivial differences can create rifts in long-term relationships. It is important to realize your differences before forming bonds with people. Not respecting the other person and where they are coming from is one of the biggest reasons for relationship breakdown. 5 Common Reasons For Relationship Breakdown There are hundreds of reasons why relationships fail....

Most threads of conventional wisdom assert that it is not the conflict per se, but how the conflict is handled that matters. In fact, there have been enough studies that show how conflict, if cognitively used as a positive reinforcement vehicle during the disagreement, can make relationships traverse from one point of existence to another, in a positive-transient way. To shed some more light on the same, Shazia Saleem (Masters in Psychology), who specializes in separation and divorce counseling, is here to help us understand conflict resolution a little better....

First of all, the idea of looking up to a couple as perfect is as flawed as considering any individual to be a perfect human being. And second of all, couple goals should be about being genuinely happy and content in a relationship rather than trying to be a picture perfect duo for the world. We don’t have the faintest idea of what those couples with the perfect hashtag #couplegoals are going through in real life; hence trying to meet their goals can’t help building our own relationship which comes with its own set of complications....

But still, when you are single, you can fall in love with many things. Is it necessary that you fall in love with the opposite sex only? Or in some cases, same sex. Is it necessary that you ‘need’ someone to make you feel complete and happy? Absolutely no. Unless and until you are complete and happy in yourself, all your relationships are going to hurt you. Because of the ‘expectation’ thing....